Do you struggle to succinctly explain why you oppose gay marriage? You aren’t the only one. Here’s a child centric outline for those conversations.
1. Children have a natural right to their mother and father. Adults care which newborn they take home from the hospital. They don’t want just any baby; they want *their* baby because biology matters to parents. It matters to kids too.
2. Marriage is the only institution which unites the two people to whom children have a natural right. Those happen to be the two people who are statistically most likely to ensure that children are safe and loved. It’s also the only adult arrangement which guarantees the perfect gender balance in the home- moms and dads offer distinct and complimentary benefits in child rearing.
3. Children experience a lifelong wound and diminished outcomes when they lose their mom and/or dad whether by death, donor conception, divorce, or abandonment, even if subsequently adopted.
4. Because mother/father loss harms children, it should never be promoted or normalized.
5. Redefining marriage redefines parenthood. When husbands and wives are optional in law, dads and moms become optional as well. But no kid thinks that. Children experience deep pain when they don’t have a close, loving relationship with their mom or dad.
6. A just society *permits* adults to form consensual relationships, but only *promotes* the one adult relationship that produces and nurtures new life, and where children experience zero loss when joining the family.
7. Christians who support traditional marriage on the basis of children’s rights should also wholeheartedly love their gay family and friends.
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To put it another way, the orphan has lost the mom and dad whose whose very marital act brought him into existence. That bond deserves to be replicated by an adoptive mother and father. Read Paul Vitz for more in that bond.
Not every Gay Couple attempt to become parents. So you can spin your homophobia any way you want it because you completely ignore those Gay Couples.
Well then why should society specially recognize a coupling not meant for children? Children are *the reason* that society privileges marriage.
I *am* afraid of homosexuals destroying marriage and have company in this idea with homosexual Masha Gessen: “”Fighting for gay marriage generally involves lying about what we’re going to do with marriage when we get there. Because we lie that the institution of marriage is not going to change, and that is a lie. The institution of marriage is going to change and it should change, and again, I don’t think it should exist.””
Hi Katy,… better and better. well done. Here’s how I might phrase it:
• Children have a natural right and desire to be raised, if it is at all possible, by their two biological parents.
• Babies and children, like everyone else, have an equal right to life.
• Children also have a natural right to expect adults to protect them from the selfish desires and possibly abusive demands of other adults.
• Children, like everyone else, have a natural right to be free from slavery – to not have to deal with the depressing thought that they were bought and sold to fulfil someone else’s needs.
Many Christians were against the same-sex marriage verdict for the immense harm it will do to various groups of children.
– Millions of viable embryos would ultimately be destroyed due to the massive increase in IVF that followed the Court’s decision.
– Tens of thousands of children would be bought and sold against their natural desires.
– All these children would lose their natural right to know the love of at least one of their biological parents—and many would suffer heartache and depression as a result.
– Millions of school children, against their natural desires, would be taught sexual norms that research clearly shows does these children harm
– Also, the verdict now allows activists to call Christianity “hate speech.” Because of this false statement – millions of children will walk away from the protection of their faith community and be exposed to many more challenging risks throughout their lives.
Ultimately, the damage to millions of citizens’ lives will be far worse than the benefit accrued through some 2 percent of the population feeling a little more accepted by society.
The redefining of marriage did one other thing. The ruling redefined the social purpose of marriage. The natural purpose of marriage has always been, “This is where two, opposite-sex individuals commit to take care of the well-being of the children they bring into the world.” The Court’s decision changed this to become, “This is where society affirms the love between any two adults.”
This redefinition can only lead to fewer heterosexuals marrying. The partners already have their love for each other. They do not need a wedding to affirm this. Thus, immediately after the redefining of marriage, there was a sharp drop in rates of marriage in Holland, Canada, Spain, and S. Africa – the first countries that redefined marriage. The growth of fragile cohabitation can be the only outcome, and many couples and their children will experience less-fulfilling lives as a result.
In essence, the redefining of marriage undermines every one of the primary natural rights of the child, thus locking in place all the previous pieces of child-harming legislation. Social decay will be inevitable.
I believe marriage is between one man and one woman and that every child is entitled to a Mother and a Father. I do not believe that children should be taught about alternatives to this, nor should they be informed of gay sex at school or various genders. We are born male or female, that’s biology. Love is Love is a false statement by the yes mob and that it wasn’t going to change anything. Now we have unisex toilets or enter the toilet you feel suits you best, so if you are a boy one day but want to be a girl and feel like a girl you can go into the girls toilet. This can make women feel uncomfortable and unsafe, as it presents a danger to us females.