Them Before Us supports adoption, when it it properly understood. Adoption must always be viewed as a child-centric institution, not simply as a means for adults to have children. No adult - heterosexual, homosexual, or single- has a “right” to adopt. Rather, every...read more
All you need is love might be a catchy Beatles tune, but it's a lie. Especially when it comes to marriage. Them Before Us opposes gay marriage, not because we oppose gay people - we are proud to have a number of both gay and lesbian TBU leaders who are passionate...read more
Chile appears set to become the latest South American country to legalize same-sex marriage, following Argentina, Uruguay, Brazil and Colombia. The bill, introduced by President Michelle Bachelet, will take time to make its way through Congress, but it is another...read more
Australian homosexual couples enjoy the same legal rights as heterosexual couples but there is still a (very ugly) battle raging over the last conceptual distinction between gay and straight unions: the term "marriage." The Land Down Under is set for a nation-wide...read more
Mountains of evidence confirm that children do best when they live with their married biological parents; no alternative family structure affords children the level of protection and stability as their natural family. Children under the pressure of a broken family...read more
John McEnroe. I have hardly heard his name since I was a kid listening to my dad yell at the TV screen for him to "stop throwing his racket around like a baby!" But in the last few weeks, the bad boy of tennis has captured headlines and my attention... twice. The...read more
On the second anniversary of the national redefinition of marriage, today the US Supreme Court struck down an Arkansas law that kept same-sex couples from listing their spouse as a parent on their child's birth certificate. Why? Because, as many of us argued prior...read more
Another Father's Day. Another phone call I didn't make. I was raised by my lesbian mother who divorced my father when I was one year old. My mother told my father to go away and never come back. And that's exactly what he did. It should come as no surprise that this...read more
I recently spoke with a bright college student fresh from her Gender Studies class who wanted to know why Christians were trying to “force their morality upon a secular society” by supporting traditional marriage. It's a good question, and one that we should be ready...read more
Them Before Us is committed to reorienting conversations about family structure away from adult desires and toward children's needs. And when it comes to an unhappy marriage, most of the commentary focuses on the wants of the adults involved with little, if any,...read more
Help Us Put Children's Rights First.
Them Before Us is made up of ordinary adults who are committed to putting the needs of children at the forefront of the battle surrounding the very foundation of our society - marriage and family. Are you an ordinary person too? Does your simple blood boil when children are expected to conform to the lifestyle of adults because you understand, maybe firsthand, how hard that is on kids? And are you tired of culture framing adults as victims when we all know that kids are the ones who have to pay the price? If so, we are your people.
Join us. Stand strong. Speak up. Lose friends.
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