Dear Dad Happy Father’s Day! How amazing it feels to be able to think of you on this day. For the first time in my life, I know who you are. I know your name. I know what you look like. I am sorry you don’t know about me. I’m sorry you don’t want to know of my...read more
The film Delivery Man, about a sperm donor who unwittingly fathers more than 500 children, was panned by the critics. Its cloying sentimentality, clumsy symbolism and implausible plot certainly grate; but for me, as a donor-conceived adult, it is important that the...read more
My biological father sold his sperm when he was in medical school. He was told what a wonderful, altruistic act he was doing, and praised for being so generous to a poor, infertile family. He was also promised anonymity. My parents bought that sperm and a doctor...read more
I am Lewis, the child of gay parents, and this is my experience of gay parents. My mother and father were never married, and while my father was homosexual, my mother identified as bi-sexual, and had spent several years in a lesbian relationship sometime prior to my...read more
My mom is a SMC, a Single Mom by Choice, (emphasis on “choice” because it was her Plan A). I do not know my dad from Adam; he is a stranger to me even though his blood courses through my veins and his eyes stare back at me in the mirror. To my mom: You wanted me, or...read more
I am the oldest of 8 children, consisting of 3 full brothers, 2 step siblings, a half sister and a half brother who passed away when he was 3. My parents were married. Our childhood was fairly run of the Mill, we grew up in the Burbs and lived in a time where you...read more
If you believe that “all kids need is love” then these donor-conceived children should be perfectly happy. But they’re not. Turns out that even if kids have one or two loving parents, many donor-conceived kids struggle with the reality that they will never know half...read more
In college I would proudly declare how I had a gay father who "came out" when I was a toddler (my parents divorced when I was 2). I would explain how I was a normal, straight, educated young woman who lived part time with my father throughout my life, and that his...read more
I don't know how to talk about my feelings of discomfort and disagreement with same sex relationships. Even though I experienced the negative experience first hand, I am still nervous to speak. When I have, others have called me a bigot and said it was hateful....read more
I was born to a teenage mother. According to her siblings, and even my grandmother, my birth father loved my mother very much. I heard stories over the years of how much he loved and wanted to marry her. My mother never lied in my younger years about who my birth...read more
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