My parents’ divorce had left me with a deep wound. One that affected my marriage, my motherhood, my friendships and my life as an adult
“Dad seems sad…Can dads get sad?” I said to myself, bewildered as my four-year-old hand reached desperately for whatever scratch paper and pencil I could find. Like looking for a clean rag to put pressure on a bleeding wound, I needed to draw to ease the pain right...read more
My mom and dad married in 1967. Early on, it was clear (according to my mom) that dad was more interested in his music (big piano player) than he was in actually taking care of two little boys. My twin brother and I would be in our cribs, crying (needing to be...read more
I am writing this very stream of conscious because I am so confused and have no place I feel is a safe outlet. My mom is very abusive. She would scream at me until I sobbed then scream at me to stop crying. She’d accuse me of “giving her attitude” and then demand I...read more
(Originally published at We Are Donor Conceived) I first want to express my gratitude, love, and support for everyone in the donor conceived community. Being DC has hit me very, very hard. I’ve spent the past several months going to therapy, doing self-healing,...read more
Mum told me when I was a child all about how desperate she was for a baby, and how much I was wanted, and I was special…it doesn’t feel like that.
I was conceived via AID (artificial insemination donor) as it was called in the late 1960s in England. My father had his prostate removed so he and my mother went down the route of artificial insemination by anonymous donor. Mum told me when I was a child. All about...read more
The one constant in my life no matter what else fell apart…my parents’ marriage…. had crumbled. And within weeks, I was absorbing that my dad… was not my dad
I’m 41 & female. When I was 26, my mother told me I was donor conceived.I had just moved with my husband from my home state of Minnesota to Idaho. The reason for the move was that my parents had just divorced, and my mother had moved to Idaho to be near family,...read more
My intention behind this post is to raise awareness of a rarely-talked about, obscure system and the deeply traumatizing and unethical sides to it
I am a donor-conceived person. This means that my mom went to a fertility clinic with a sperm bank and was artificially inseminated to get pregnant. She was/is a single mom and this was her only option. She elected to use an anonymous sperm donor. Anonymous donation...read more
My parents were allegedly a common law marriage, but the state they lived in didn't recognize common law marriage at the time, so far as I can tell. They were hippies, my father was a drunk and a junkie, my mother left him when I was 2 and my brother 4. My mother...read more
My parents were separated before I knew what was going on. I remember another woman I didn't know yelling at me about something to do with a baby crawling on the floor. I remember my dad and another woman naked in a sauna that was part of the apartment. Then I...read more
My parents married at 18 years of age because of my impending arrival. My mother and I—along with my brother, who came along 15 months later—lived with my maternal grandparents for the first few years of my life. My dad was in the US Air Force and stationed far away,...read more
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