Position Statement On Adoption
Them Before Us supports adoption, when it is properly understood. Adoption must always be viewed as a child-centric institution, not simply as a means for adults to have children. No adult - heterosexual, homosexual, or single- has a “right” to adopt. Rather, every...
Marriage is Married to Parenthood- a global survey on how gay marriage weakens children’s rights.
All you need is love might be a catchy Beatles tune, but it's a lie. Especially when it comes to marriage. Them Before Us opposes gay marriage, not because we oppose gay people - we are proud to have a number of both gay and lesbian TBU leaders who are passionate...
Think legalizing gay marriage will help kids with LGBT parents? Think again.
Australian homosexual couples enjoy the same legal rights as heterosexual couples but there is still a (very ugly) battle raging over the last conceptual distinction between gay and straight unions: the term "marriage." The Land Down Under is set for a nation-wide...
Divorce is Bad for Your Kid’s Health
Mountains of evidence confirm that children do best when they live with their married biological parents; no alternative family structure affords children the level of protection and stability as their natural family. Children under the pressure of a broken family...
John McEnroe Shreds Serena and Reality- why gender matters in tennis and marriage.
John McEnroe. I have hardly heard his name since I was a kid listening to my dad yell at the TV screen for him to "stop throwing his racket around like a baby!" But in the last few weeks, the bad boy of tennis has captured headlines and my attention... twice. The...
“Equality” for Same-Sex Couples on Birth Certificates = Inequality for Kids
On the second anniversary of the national redefinition of marriage, today the US Supreme Court struck down an Arkansas law that kept same-sex couples from listing their spouse as a parent on their child's birth certificate. Why? Because, as many of us argued prior...
Father’s Day for a Lesbian’s Daughter
Another Father's Day. Another phone call I didn't make. I was raised by my lesbian mother who divorced my father when I was one year old. My mother told my father to go away and never come back. And that's exactly what he did. It should come as no surprise that this...
Marriage isn’t about God. It’s about kids.
I recently spoke with a bright college student fresh from her Gender Studies class who wanted to know why Christians were trying to “force their morality upon a secular society” by supporting traditional marriage. It's a good question, and one that we should be ready...
What “Shared Parenting” After Divorce Really Looks Like
Them Before Us is committed to reorienting conversations about family structure away from adult desires and toward children's needs. And when it comes to an unhappy marriage, most of the commentary focuses on the wants of the adults involved with little, if any,...
Stories of Donor-Conceived Kids with Gay Parents- Why “family break-up” doesn’t explain their struggles.
“Am I the only one who feels this way? Am I a bad daughter because I wish I had a Dad? Is there anyone else who has 2 Moms or 2 Dads who wonders what it would be like if they were born into a normal family? Is ther anyone else who wants to be able to use the word normal without gettin a lecture on what is normal??? I dont know my real father and never will. Its weird but I miss him. I miss this man I will never know. Is it wrong for me to long for a father like my friends have?”
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