Whether one calls it a “Primal Wound” or simply trauma, maternal separation and loss are no small matter and must never be dismissed or downplayed. When we choose to put Them (children) before Us (the adults) we recognize that children are harmed when adults refuse to do hard things.
Studies
New European study claims that children with two dads are doing better than those with heterosexual parents
In a European study of child outcomes, researchers evaluated the children born to gay couples through surrogacy and compared them to those born to heterosexual couples. The study participants included 67 gay couples who became parents via gestational surrogacy and 67...
My Daddy’s Name is Donor – Study
We wanted to preserve this study on "young adults conceived by sperm donation" so that those who follow Them Before Us and the ethical questions of third-party reproduction can have this valuable resource on hand! Click here for the full study. "In the U.S., an...
Dr. Paul Sullins refutes common same-sex parenting studies
There have been several studies done in an attempt to show “no difference” in child outcomes between same-sex and opposite-sex parenting. Studies commonly cited in support of same-sex parenting are Reczek’s, “Family Structure and Child Health; Does the Sex Composition...
Harvard confirms what we knew to be true: commercial separation of kids from their parents is harmful
Several studies of donor-conceived persons have been conducted, but the scope of these studies has been limited to the psychological impacts of being conceived via artificial means. In an effort to deepen this vital research, Harvard Medical School’s Center for...
Fight the Digital Divide: Promote Marriage
Earlier this year, Senator Patty Murray (D-WA) sponsored the Digital Equality Act of 2019 in an effort to close the "digital divide" by extending wifi access to more communities. Tech companies such as Facebook and Verizon, Apple (in this article, donating 9,000...
Another study reveals what we already know; divorce mentally and emotionally damages children.
In order to mitigate the suffering and devastation of your children after divorce, the Millennium Cohort Study has revealed that it’s better for kids if you rip the rug out from under them when they are between the ages of three and seven. In other words, get out...
Children Created via ART at Increased Risk for Intellectual Disabilities
Struggling with infertility is agonizing. Yet that primal desire for a child despite biological roadblocks has driven Assisted Reproductive Technology (ART) to become a billion dollar industry. An industry which continues to research methods and procedures to improve...
Them Before Us Founder Testifies Against Uniform Parentage Act
Members of the law and justice committee,* Thank you for the opportunity to be here. My name is Katy Faust and I’m the founder of the children’s rights organization Them Before Us. I am the former Assistant Director of Chinese Children Adoption International, the...
I’m gay. And like most Italians, I oppose surrogacy.
My name is Vincenzo. I am Italian and I’m gay. Normally I don't feel this need to label myself because I think sexuality is simply a detail. On this planet we are men and women- people- that's all. But on the topic of surrogacy it's important to specify my sexuality...
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