Revisiting the Primal Wound

Whether one calls it a “Primal Wound” or simply trauma, maternal separation and loss are no small matter and must never be dismissed or downplayed. When we choose to put Them (children) before Us (the adults) we recognize that children are harmed when adults refuse to do hard things.

New European study claims that children with two dads are doing better than those with heterosexual parents

In a European study of child outcomes, researchers evaluated the children born to gay couples through surrogacy and compared them to those born to heterosexual couples. The study participants included 67 gay couples who became parents via gestational surrogacy and 67...

My Daddy’s Name is Donor – Study

We wanted to preserve this study on "young adults conceived by sperm donation" so that those who follow Them Before Us and the ethical questions of third-party reproduction can have this valuable resource on hand! Click here for the full study. "In the U.S., an...
Gender Matters in Writing… And Parenting.

Gender Matters in Writing… And Parenting.

Supporters of gay marriage have aggressively promoted the idea that “all kids need is love.” They argue that children do not specifically need the love of their father or the love of their mother, just generic “love.”  For that to be the case, there must be no...

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The Father Effect- Daughters of Divorce Serve as a Test Case

The Father Effect- Daughters of Divorce Serve as a Test Case

Dads do something for kids that moms can't.  They influence their child's behavior in ways that moms don't. And their involvement effects boys and girls in sex-specific ways. We know this because when dad is absent, boys and girls face distinct risks.  While boys who...

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Divorce is Bad for Your Kid’s Health

Divorce is Bad for Your Kid’s Health

Mountains of evidence confirm that children do best when they live with their married biological parents; no alternative family structure affords children the level of protection and stability as their natural family. Children under the pressure of a broken family...

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Study the Studies- What We Know About Same-Sex Parenting

Study the Studies- What We Know About Same-Sex Parenting

It's difficult to unearth the truth with all the noise and fanfare surrounding the studies that purport to show “no difference” between children raised in the home of same-sex parents and those raised in the home of their married mother and father. It's also...

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What’s so bad about divorce?

What’s so bad about divorce?

Reams of research testify to marriage being a force for good in the lives of children and statistically, the home of a child's married mother and father is the safest place for a child. However, Them Before Us does not advocate for "marriage at all costs" if the...

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Biology Matters

Biology Matters

Regardless of how often we hear, "it doesn't matter who raises a child as long as they are safe and loved," the data reveals that being raised by both biological parents is one of the strongest predictors of whether or not a child will actually be safe and loved. But...

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Gender Matters

Gender Matters

Children are fragile human beings that require the utmost provision, love, attention, moral education, and the inculcation of virtues. Without the proper care, children would not survive infancy nor grow to maturity.  Depending on their age, children possess different...

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