My name is Vincenzo. I am Italian and I’m gay. Normally I don't feel this need to label myself because I think sexuality is simply a detail. On this planet we are men and women- people- that's all. But on the topic of surrogacy it's important to specify my sexuality...read more
Supporters of gay marriage have aggressively promoted the idea that “all kids need is love.” They argue that children do not specifically need the love of their father or the love of their mother, just generic “love.” For that to be the case, there must be no...read more
Dads do something for kids that moms can't. They influence their child's behavior in ways that moms don't. And their involvement effects boys and girls in sex-specific ways. We know this because when dad is absent, boys and girls face distinct risks. While boys who...read more
Mountains of evidence confirm that children do best when they live with their married biological parents; no alternative family structure affords children the level of protection and stability as their natural family. Children under the pressure of a broken family...read more
It's difficult to unearth the truth with all the noise and fanfare surrounding the studies that purport to show “no difference” between children raised in the home of same-sex parents and those raised in the home of their married mother and father. It's also...read more
It is endlessly shocking to me that an argument erupts every time a new study comes out promoting traditional mother- and father-based parenting. Case in point: A new study revealed that babies who spend quality time with their fathers perform better in cognitive...read more
Reams of research testify to marriage being a force for good in the lives of children and statistically, the home of a child's married mother and father is the safest place for a child. However, Them Before Us does not advocate for "marriage at all costs" if the...read more
Regardless of how often we hear, "it doesn't matter who raises a child as long as they are safe and loved," the data reveals that being raised by both biological parents is one of the strongest predictors of whether or not a child will actually be safe and loved. But...read more
Children are fragile human beings that require the utmost provision, love, attention, moral education, and the inculcation of virtues. Without the proper care, children would not survive infancy nor grow to maturity. Depending on their age, children possess different...read more
Them Before Us is categorically against third-party reproduction. We are also whole-hearted supporters of adoption. Both adoption and donor-conception involve loss for children. In both situations a child is living with at least one non-biological parent. Donor...read more
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Them Before Us is made up of ordinary adults who are committed to putting the needs of children at the forefront of the battle surrounding the very foundation of our society - marriage and family. Are you an ordinary person too? Does your simple blood boil when children are expected to conform to the lifestyle of adults because you understand, maybe firsthand, how hard that is on kids? And are you tired of culture framing adults as victims when we all know that kids are the ones who have to pay the price? If so, we are your people.
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