My parents’ divorce had left me with a deep wound. One that affected my marriage, my motherhood, my friendships and my life as an adult

“Dad seems sad…Can dads get sad?” I said to myself, bewildered as my four-year-old hand reached desperately for whatever scratch paper and pencil I could find. Like looking for a clean rag to put pressure on a bleeding wound, I needed to draw to ease the pain right...

Jeremy- my brother and I were competition for my dad’s affection from his gay lover.

My mom and dad married in 1967.  Early on, it was clear (according to my mom) that dad was more interested in his music (big piano player) than he was in actually taking care of two little boys.  My twin brother and I would be in our cribs, crying (needing to be...

I feel like a sick eugenics experiment gone horribly wrong

I am writing this very stream of conscious because I am so confused and have no place I feel is a safe outlet. My mom is very abusive. She would scream at me until I sobbed then scream at me to stop crying. She’d accuse me of “giving her attitude” and then demand I...

Rhianna – I never have had a mom’s love and affection

I am a 38-year-old married woman, a wife of 10 years, and a mother to a 3.5-year-old daughter and a 1-year old son. My mother is African American and my father is/was Caucasian. I was born in the late 70’s where it was still taboo for interracial relationships to...

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Ellie – Now it is my turn to speak. I hate my conception

My biological father sold his sperm when he was in medical school.  He was told what a wonderful, altruistic act he was doing, and praised for being so generous to a poor, infertile family.  He was also promised anonymity.  My parents bought that sperm and a doctor...

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Bethany – Letter to my single-mom-by-choice and donor dad

My mom is a SMC, a Single Mom by Choice, (emphasis on “choice” because it was her Plan A). I do not know my dad from Adam; he is a stranger to me even though his blood courses through my veins and his eyes stare back at me in the mirror. To my mom: You wanted me, or...

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