As I began to write this I wanted to start with who I am. But that is hard for me because, even in my mid-thirties, I am still not very sure. I know what I am not. I know what I am not supposed to be. I know what I want to be. But I am not exactly sure who I am I was...read more
I was kidnapped when I was 8 months old. My father snuck me out of a diner in Albuquerque, NM while my mother was in the bathroom. My father moved me around quite a bit and stayed off the grid as much as possible to avoid detection from my mother. In Denver Colorado...read more
We got the following comment from "Jay" on our post, Stories of Donor-Conceived Kids with Gay Parents- Why "family break-up" doesn't explain their struggles." Hi I’m a guy, 15 I grew up in a small town where everyone including me was conservative. I have two lesbian...read more
I am a 38-year-old married woman, a wife of 10 years, and a mother to a 3.5-year-old daughter and a 1-year old son. My mother is African American and my father is/was Caucasian. I was born in the late 70’s where it was still taboo for interracial relationships to...read more
I grew up in a Pastor’s home and I am the youngest of four children. The summer before first grade, my family moved from California to Northern Idaho. We moved into a beautiful tri-level 5-bedroom home in a great neighborhood. That would be my home and haven till my...read more
Dear Dad Happy Father’s Day! How amazing it feels to be able to think of you on this day. For the first time in my life, I know who you are. I know your name. I know what you look like. I am sorry you don’t know about me. I’m sorry you don’t want to know of my...read more
The film Delivery Man, about a sperm donor who unwittingly fathers more than 500 children, was panned by the critics. Its cloying sentimentality, clumsy symbolism and implausible plot certainly grate; but for me, as a donor-conceived adult, it is important that the...read more
My biological father sold his sperm when he was in medical school. He was told what a wonderful, altruistic act he was doing, and praised for being so generous to a poor, infertile family. He was also promised anonymity. My parents bought that sperm and a doctor...read more
I am Lewis, the child of gay parents, and this is my experience of gay parents. My mother and father were never married, and while my father was homosexual, my mother identified as bi-sexual, and had spent several years in a lesbian relationship sometime prior to my...read more
My mom is a SMC, a Single Mom by Choice, (emphasis on “choice” because it was her Plan A). I do not know my dad from Adam; he is a stranger to me even though his blood courses through my veins and his eyes stare back at me in the mirror. To my mom: You wanted me, or...read more
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