The one constant in my life no matter what else fell apart…my parents’ marriage…. had crumbled. And within weeks, I was absorbing that my dad… was not my dad
(Originally published at Anonymous Us) I’m 41 & female. When I was 26, my mother told me I was donor conceived.I had just moved with my husband from my home state of Minnesota to Idaho. The reason for the move was that my parents had just divorced, and my mother...read more
My parents were allegedly a common law marriage, but the state they lived in didn't recognize common law marriage at the time, so far as I can tell. They were hippies, my father was a drunk and a junkie, my mother left him when I was 2 and my brother 4. My mother...read more
My parents were separated before I knew what was going on. I remember another woman I didn't know yelling at me about something to do with a baby crawling on the floor. I remember my dad and another woman naked in a sauna that was part of the apartment. Then I...read more
My parents married at 18 years of age because of my impending arrival. My mother and I—along with my brother, who came along 15 months later—lived with my maternal grandparents for the first few years of my life. My dad was in the US Air Force and stationed far away,...read more
As I began to write this I wanted to start with who I am. But that is hard for me because, even in my mid-thirties, I am still not very sure. I know what I am not. I know what I am not supposed to be. I know what I want to be. But I am not exactly sure who I am I was...read more
I was kidnapped when I was 8 months old. My father snuck me out of a diner in Albuquerque, NM while my mother was in the bathroom. My father moved me around quite a bit and stayed off the grid as much as possible to avoid detection from my mother. In Denver Colorado...read more
We got the following comment from "Jay" on our post, Stories of Donor-Conceived Kids with Gay Parents- Why "family break-up" doesn't explain their struggles." Hi I’m a guy, 15 I grew up in a small town where everyone including me was conservative. I have two lesbian...read more
I am a 38-year-old married woman, a wife of 10 years, and a mother to a 3.5-year-old daughter and a 1-year old son. My mother is African American and my father is/was Caucasian. I was born in the late 70’s where it was still taboo for interracial relationships to...read more
I grew up in a Pastor’s home and I am the youngest of four children. The summer before first grade, my family moved from California to Northern Idaho. We moved into a beautiful tri-level 5-bedroom home in a great neighborhood. That would be my home and haven till my...read more
Dear Dad Happy Father’s Day! How amazing it feels to be able to think of you on this day. For the first time in my life, I know who you are. I know your name. I know what you look like. I am sorry you don’t know about me. I’m sorry you don’t want to know of my...read more
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