Dear MP Sovsun,
My name is Katy Faust and I am the President of Them Before Us. We represent the children who will be harmed if you approve the draft law on civil partnerships for same-sex couples.
In the past year, thousands of Ukrainian children have lost their mother or father due to the choices of the Russian government.
Your draft law will result in Ukrainian children losing their mother or father due to the choices of their own government.
Children have a right to be known and loved by their mother and father. They suffer when they are raised apart from one or both. Marriage is the vehicle that every culture and religion throughout the world has used to unite a child to their mother and father for life. Same-sex marriage is incompatible with that child right.
We don’t have to guess about what happens after same-sex partnerships are legalized. A survey of countries which have redefined the family clearly reveals that gay marriage and children’s right to their mother and father cannot coexist. Once you make husbands and wives optional in marriage law, mothers and fathers become optional in parenthood law.
How are the Ukrainian children faring who have lost their mother or father at the hands of the Russian soldiers? Do they grieve? Long for their missing parent? Wish they could have their mother or father back? Of course they do. That’s because human children are made for the daily love of their mother and father. Children who lose their mother or father to tragedy have a life-long hole in their heart.
Children who lose their mother or father so they can be raised in the home of two moms or two dads also grieve and long for their missing parent. That’s because these children are also made for the daily love of their mother and father. Children who lose their mother or father intentionally have a life-long hole in their heart. As one boy with two moms shares,
When puberty hit, I became increasingly aware of the hole in my life where I wanted a father. Being without a named father has put me into something of a perpetual existential crisis. I feel as though I was not even conceived out of love – I was conceived because my parents could afford to buy the necessary ingredient… I will never know half of my biology, half of where I come from and why I exist. I feel robbed of an experience afforded to nearly everyone else in the world. The worst part is, I feel utterly alone in this state of being. Children who have deceased fathers at least have their mother’s memory to go off of, pictures, stories. A name, even. I will always have nothing.
The best studies we have on outcomes for children in same-sex partnerships validate their emotional and developmental struggles. Here’s one sample from a national data set.
You are advancing this law as a means of “correcting a great injustice” because some “citizens have fewer rights than all others.” You will have to choose whose rights you want to champion- either the so-called “right to marry” of a few adults whose legitimate needs for property ownership, inheritance, rights in case of death which can be easily solved via powers of attorney, or the universal rights of every child to “both parents” that you agreed to protect when you signed the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child in 1991. You cannot do both.
You must choose a side- the side of a progressive agenda seeking to upend the traditions of Ukraine, or the side of every Ukrainian child who deserves their mother’s and father’s love, for life.
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Here here for all the children!
Šī ES iniciatīva, par viendzimuma pāru lalībām, ir tieksme ģimenes jēdziena plašākai interpretācijai. Pretdabisko homoseksuālo attiecību leģimitizācijā un to pārrobežu izplatībā tajās ES valstīs, kuras ir pret šādu attiecību akceptu . Ar nolūku, šo viendzimuma partnerattiecību pielīdzināšanai ģimenes savienībai, kurā“māte sieviete” un “tēvs vīrietis. Eiropas savienības iniciatīva ir apslēpts diktāts atsevišķām dalībvalstīm ar iejaukšanās nolūku vecāku un bērnu audzināšanas tradīcijās, kā arī pašas ģimenes kultūrvidē. Katrā atsevišķā ES dalībvalstī ir izstrādāta atbilstoša likumdošana, aizsargājoši likumi, kas nosaka un sakārto ģimenes locekļu savstarpējās tiesības un pienākumus. Vienīgā ģimene ir savienība, kurā“māte sieviete” un “tēvs vīrietis”, kā pēctecības un dzimtas turpinātāji.
Well said Katy – as always.
One might also add that IVf and surrogacy kids have higher rates of health issues and disability. Thus, SSM also violates the Nuremberg Code when it comes to kids. Supposedly, we all once agreed that medical procedures that might lead to harm had to be agreed upon by the patient first. would like to lose your mother and also be disabled, just because someone else wants to experience the feeling of being a parent?
One might also add that the redefining of the social purpose of marriage – from a child focussed institution to an adult-centered one – allows LGBT activists to gain access to classrooms, and many more normally heterosexual kids are drawn into experimenting with same-sex sexuality – often just to look like one of the cool kids, or to gain attention – all without realizing the increased rates of rape, abuse, diseases, mental health issues that sadly afflict the LGBT community. Adults who are meant to protect kids from harm become complicit perpetrators.
And one might add that after the redefining of marriage, Christians are increasingly refused access to prominent positions because that might say something against the law that hurts so many groups of children. When Russia controlled Ukraine during the cold war, only people who had the right political views could hold positions of power. Redefining marriage causes the same negative outcome.. Increasingly, your political views, not your competence, become how you are assessed for all social positions. And the USSR increasingly decayed when it chose political views over competence. Having lived and suffered under a communist worldview once, Ukraine should really not want to be going down the same route again.
And one might mention that redefinition causes those who wish to protect kids to be falsely labeled as bigots. The Christian faithful don’t like this false label. And thousands of churches close because people don’t want to be unfairly labeled. However, church membership brings all kinds of benefits to citizens. their kids, and their communities. If people stop attending church, they, their kids, and their communities have worse outcomes. Many have many more problems than just having their feelings hurt. We don’t need to harm our communities just so that a tiny number of people can feel a bit more accepted by society.
Economic Marxism said that in order to have compassion for the poor, politicians are allowed to harm many other groups of citizens. It didn’t work as a political idea because far more people were harmed than helped. It’s the same here. In seeking to have compassion for the LGB community, far more people are harmed than are helped. And once politicians say this is acceptable, then all those who see the immense damage are increasingly asked to be quiet. Meanwhile, society slowly dies because so many children are being harmed.
The progressives are often called cultural Marxists? Why? Because the redefining of marriage brings about the same decaying authoritarian future that economic Marxism did.