Children's Rights Before Adult Desires.

Giving children a voice in the debate over family structure.

Over the last 50 years, culture, law and technology have elevated adult desires over the rights and needs of children.

As a result, we’ve doomed a generation of kids…



Yes. They do. Children have a fundamental right to be known and loved by the two people who made them: their mother and father. It’s a right that’s recognized worldwide.


Gender differences are a real phenomenon. From their brains, to the way they communicate, to their physical bodies, men and women are gloriously different. When it comes to parenting, those differences offer complementary benefits to children.


Marriage is not just some outdated religious concept.  It’s simply the combination of three things that children need to thrive- mother, father, and stability. These are the three staples in a child’s social and emotional diet.


Biological connection matters to children.  Not only does it provide them with the adults who are most likely to be protective of, attached to, and invested in them, but it also gives them access to their biological identity.



Both my mom and dad had children with their new spouses, but neither of my step-parents treated me the same as they did their own children.  It felt like I was the third wheel, like I was being pushed out of a relationship that was established before either of the step parents and their children came along. 


I spent about six weeks mourning the loss of biological connection to my dad. Nothing seemed to be true and stable. I felt as though I no longer knew who I was. I realized that there was a man out there who I did look like who fathered me and began to mourn the loss of a man who I never even knew existed until a few weeks earlier.


I am a child of lesbian parents. This is a testimony that it is unheard of because nobody wants to hear about the other side of the rainbow.  Growing up I felt that I was missing a father before I could even articulate what a father was. I knew that I loved both of my parents, but I could not place my finger on what it is I was missing inside myself.  

Them Before Us has a book!

Them Before Us: Why We Need a Global Children’s Rights Movement provides child-centric answers to questions about marriage, family, parenthood, surrogacy, adoption, reproductive technologies, divorce, same-sex parenting, cohabitation, polygamy and more.

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The book pairs gold-standard research with hundreds of stories from children, many of which have never been told before. The result? A new generation of children’s rights advocates. Makes a great gift!


Them Before Us is made up of ordinary adults who are committed to putting the needs of children at the forefront of the battle surrounding the very foundation of our society - marriage and family.  Are you an ordinary person too? Does your simple blood boil when children are expected to conform to the lifestyle of adults because you understand, maybe firsthand, how hard that is on kids? And are you tired of culture framing adults as victims when we all know that kids are the ones who have to pay the price? If so, we are your people.

Join us. Stand strong. Speak up. Lose friends. All the cool kids are doing it.

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