Blake – Everything quickly became too much to handle and, at the age of twelve, I attempted to take my own life

My name is Blake, and I am a victim of adults putting their desires before their responsibilities as parents. I was born into a middle-class family that I thought was secure. We had no financial need that we could not meet, my mother took a very active role in raising...

N. Smith – …the wound caused by missing actions on [my father’s] part is definitely still there in my adulthood

I grew up in a single mother household. My parents divorced when I was six or seven years of age, my brother was three, and my sister was thirteen. When my parents divorced, we were living in California and my mom moved us to Michigan. My dad followed us, and they...

Michael – …for all of those years, it was more important to keep denying that children need fathers

I am speaking up about these events for the first time in my life, at the age of 36, because no child should ever have to endure what I did, of which what I wrote is a mere summary, sparing many details and protecting many guilty parties of even more than I write. My...
I hated growing up with gay parents

I hated growing up with gay parents

(Originally published on Reddit) Right away, I want to make something clear: I’m not a homophobe. My sister is gay, many of my friends are gay. If anything, even though I’m straight, having gay parents made me more comfortable with people in the LGBTQ+ scene. It never...

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