Tabitha’s story | “My kids have lost out on both grandparents due to a reckless woman’s search for ‘happiness.'”
My family life was pretty chaotic. My Mom divorced my Dad when I was six months old. She stated the reason she left him was because he was a drunk but that didn’t stop her from leaving me with him so she could go out to the bar. My weekends with my dad and step mom...
Adam’s story | “It is a daily struggle to not let my past overcome my present.”
My parents were married when I was born. They divorced when I was six years old. I have a sister that is four years younger than me. My mom moved around within the small town where we lived. I recall having eight different addresses before I was 12. Each one had a...
Christina’s Story | “I cannot understand why chasing selfish happiness at the expense of providing a child a stable home and family would seem logical.”
I was raised in a divorce shared-custody structured household. If you ask my parents separately who raised me, they would each say they were responsible. My parents decided that No Fault Divorce was the best thing for our “family” when I was less than one year old. I...
Johanna’s story | “I still recognize that what happened to me was a trauma, a very serious one which will forever impact my life and relations to other people.”
My name is Johanna, I am now 42 years old. I am an adoptee from Sweden (now living in Denmark). I grew up in a middle-class home in a house with my adoptive parents (husband and wife) and with a little sister who is a biological child to our parents. When I got...
Sadie’s story | “I have moments of forgiving my parents…and then moments of absolutely hating them and feeling such disgust for their selfish and irresponsible behavior…”
It resonated with me so deeply when you shared on Louise Perry’s podcast that a child feels loved when they see their biological parents sharing affection and love with one another. I felt the opposite when I witnessed my biological parent sharing intimacy with a...
Selena’s story | “I could not help thinking that this sounds like a business.”
While working as a doctor, [I've seen] that egg/sperm donation or surrogacy isn't questioned in terms of the impact that it may have on the child. I would say in fact, that it is celebrated. Celebrated in the sense that people are not allowing themselves to be...
Angelina’s story | “I slammed the phone down, ran to my bed crying in disbelief, and decided my friends would have to be my family.”
I had a different childhood as my father was 41 and my mom 18. After they were married for 10 years my mother started seeing a woman behind my dad's back. One weekend, me, this woman, an old family friend a few years older than me who was visiting from the UK, and...
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Olivia’s story | “We’re trading with humans, we’re selling humans, we’re buying uteruses. [Surrogacy] should be abolished worldwide.”
Olivia Auriol was born via traditional surrogacy in Louisville, Kentucky, and grew up between France and the United States. She recently shared her story in a Webinar with Abolition GPA about her experiences growing up as a child of surrogacy. While Olivia’s parents...
Michael R.’s story | “It is a no-true-win situation for a child to grow up as donor-conceived.”
I was a donor-conceived (IVF) child and a twin born in 1995. My mother desperately wanted to have children but with no prospect of a traditional family. She lived in central California in the 90’s and was near a larger IVF facility. She proceeded to try multiple...
Heart-Wrenching Letter from Son Whose Father Transitioned
(Originally published on MadMommaBear Blog) From a Guest Author, a letter shared from a son to an absent father about the experience of losing a father: Hello, I am fine. Sorry I haven’t reached out to you in a while. I’m doing very well in school; I have a 4.0 GPA....
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