Randall Christopher’s story | “…my insecurity in image and identity only increased the more I visited his world on the weekends.”

by Them Before Us | Jul 8, 2024 | Stories

I am the only child of my biological parents, who divorced just after I turned four. I don’t know all the circumstances, but I’m pretty sure my father was messing around with other women. The divorce devastated my mother. I have no memories of my biological father or...

I resent my gay parents

by Them Before Us | Jul 6, 2024 | Stories

(Originally published on Reddit) I just want to start this with saying I love my dads so much, they’ve always been good to me and I’m really close with both of them. But I also can’t help this feeling of resentment I’ve felt for so long and I’m not sure it’s anything...

Amie’s story | “I feel inadequate, anxious, unable to attach to people, fearful of being abandoned.”

by Them Before Us | Jun 27, 2024 | Stories, The Latest

My family structure seems ideal from the outside, 2 biological married parents, heterosexual. Initially struggling to conceive. Back in the early 80’s there was no IVF on demand, but they tried all the medical options. They tried this for 6 years until they were...

Adam’s story | “It is a daily struggle to not let my past overcome my present.”

by Them Before Us | Apr 15, 2024 | Stories

My parents were married when I was born. They divorced when I was six years old. I have a sister that is four years younger than me. My mom moved around within the small town where we lived. I recall having eight different addresses before I was 12. Each one had a...

Christina’s Story | “I cannot understand why chasing selfish happiness at the expense of providing a child a stable home and family would seem logical.”

by Them Before Us | Apr 8, 2024 | Stories

I was raised in a divorce shared-custody structured household. If you ask my parents separately who raised me, they would each say they were responsible. My parents decided that No Fault Divorce was the best thing for our “family” when I was less than one year old. I...

Johanna’s story | “I still recognize that what happened to me was a trauma, a very serious one which will forever impact my life and relations to other people.”

by Them Before Us | Mar 29, 2024 | Stories

My name is Johanna, I am now 42 years old. I am an adoptee from Sweden (now living in Denmark). I grew up in a middle-class home in a house with my adoptive parents (husband and wife) and with a little sister who is a biological child to our parents. When I got...