Them Before Us is committed to reorienting conversations about family structure away from adult desires and toward children's needs. And when it comes to an unhappy marriage, most of the commentary focuses on the wants of the adults involved with little, if any,...read more
This week, eight same-sex couples challenged Indiana's policy that only the biological mother and father can be listed on a child's birth certificate. They want their married partner listed as a parent on their child's foremost legal document. Their grounds for such...read more
Recently, the hosts of The View discussed a new phone app called Just a Baby which "helps you find a surrogate, partner, co-parent, sperm, or egg donor – or find someone that needs your help to have a baby.” Their reactions ranged from “this makes me crazy”...read more
Stories of Donor-Conceived Kids with Gay Parents- Why “family break-up” doesn’t explain their struggles.
“Am I the only one who feels this way? Am I a bad daughter because I wish I had a Dad? Is there anyone else who has 2 Moms or 2 Dads who wonders what it would be like if they were born into a normal family? Is ther anyone else who wants to be able to use the word normal without gettin a lecture on what is normal??? I dont know my real father and never will. Its weird but I miss him. I miss this man I will never know. Is it wrong for me to long for a father like my friends have?”read more
It's difficult to unearth the truth with all the noise and fanfare surrounding the studies that purport to show “no difference” between children raised in the home of same-sex parents and those raised in the home of their married mother and father. It's also...read more
The latest selfie trend? That would be #DivorceSelfie. "People are taking to Instagram to document their divorces just as they would their engagements or weddings, using the hashtag #divorceselfie. Because who doesn't love a good divorce at the end of a terrible...read more
The recent story of a man who has fathered children with both of his live-in girlfriends has received a lot of attention. Adam (36), Jane (27) and Brooke (28) say that being a throuple (in a three-way relationship) is the future of relationships and...read more
It is endlessly shocking to me that an argument erupts every time a new study comes out promoting traditional mother- and father-based parenting. Case in point: A new study revealed that babies who spend quality time with their fathers perform better in cognitive...read more
Reams of research testify to marriage being a force for good in the lives of children and statistically, the home of a child's married mother and father is the safest place for a child. However, Them Before Us does not advocate for "marriage at all costs" if the...read more
Even when the captain decides to change course, it can take up to ten miles to turn a loaded cargo ship around. Them Before Us is challenging some of the most well-funded counterculture elites in the world, and children are their commodity, their cargo. These powerful...read more
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Them Before Us is made up of ordinary adults who are committed to putting the needs of children at the forefront of the battle surrounding the very foundation of our society - marriage and family. Are you an ordinary person too? Does your simple blood boil when children are expected to conform to the lifestyle of adults because you understand, maybe firsthand, how hard that is on kids? And are you tired of culture framing adults as victims when we all know that kids are the ones who have to pay the price? If so, we are your people.
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