Heart-Wrenching Letter from Son Whose Father Transitioned

(Originally published on MadMommaBear Blog) From a Guest Author, a letter shared from a son to an absent father about the experience of losing a father: Hello, I am fine. Sorry I haven’t reached out to you in a while. I’m doing very well in school; I have a 4.0 GPA....

Peter – My rearing taught me false ideas of marriage…Now I live with the horror of what I did to people who didn’t deserve it.

In 1953, on the day after my third birthday, our parents divorced. That explosion scattered my brother, sister, and me to different states, towns, houses, schools, stepparents, and half-siblings for ten chaotic years. Our second stepmother brought us some stability...

Andrew – My mom came out as gay in 2017 and ended my parents’ marriage of 33 years…I felt like my whole existence was called into question

My mom came out as gay in 2017 and ended my parents' marriage of 33 years. She had been cheating on my dad with her mistress she met through a church group. I'm not sure how long their relationship had been like that, but we had known the other woman for years before...
Evangeline Kippling – Transgender mom and meth addict dad

Evangeline Kippling – Transgender mom and meth addict dad

My parents were separated before I was even born and they got officially divorced when I was 1. My mom started dating women after that...and she also cut her hair very short and dressed kind of manly. My dad went to prison twice when I was younger for possession of...

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I hated growing up with gay parents

I hated growing up with gay parents

(Originally published on Reddit) Right away, I want to make something clear: I’m not a homophobe. My sister is gay, many of my friends are gay. If anything, even though I’m straight, having gay parents made me more comfortable with people in the LGBTQ+ scene. It never...

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