Mountains of evidence confirm that children do best when they live with their married biological parents; no alternative family structure affords children the level of protection and stability as their natural family. Children under the pressure of a broken family...read more
John McEnroe. I have hardly heard his name since I was a kid listening to my dad yell at the TV screen for him to "stop throwing his racket around like a baby!" But in the last few weeks, the bad boy of tennis has captured headlines and my attention... twice. The...read more
On the second anniversary of the national redefinition of marriage, today the US Supreme Court struck down an Arkansas law that kept same-sex couples from listing their spouse as a parent on their child's birth certificate. Why? Because, as many of us argued prior...read more
Another Father's Day. Another phone call I didn't make. I was raised by my lesbian mother who divorced my father when I was one year old. My mother told my father to go away and never come back. And that's exactly what he did. It should come as no surprise that this...read more
I recently spoke with a bright college student fresh from her Gender Studies class who wanted to know why Christians were trying to “force their morality upon a secular society” by supporting traditional marriage. It's a good question, and one that we should be ready...read more
Them Before Us is committed to reorienting conversations about family structure away from adult desires and toward children's needs. And when it comes to an unhappy marriage, most of the commentary focuses on the wants of the adults involved with little, if any,...read more
This week, eight same-sex couples challenged Indiana's policy that only the biological mother and father can be listed on a child's birth certificate. They want their married partner listed as a parent on their child's foremost legal document. Their grounds for such...read more
Recently, the hosts of The View discussed a new phone app called Just a Baby which "helps you find a surrogate, partner, co-parent, sperm, or egg donor – or find someone that needs your help to have a baby.” Their reactions ranged from “this makes me crazy”...read more
Stories of Donor-Conceived Kids with Gay Parents- Why “family break-up” doesn’t explain their struggles.
“Am I the only one who feels this way? Am I a bad daughter because I wish I had a Dad? Is there anyone else who has 2 Moms or 2 Dads who wonders what it would be like if they were born into a normal family? Is ther anyone else who wants to be able to use the word normal without gettin a lecture on what is normal??? I dont know my real father and never will. Its weird but I miss him. I miss this man I will never know. Is it wrong for me to long for a father like my friends have?”read more
It's difficult to unearth the truth with all the noise and fanfare surrounding the studies that purport to show “no difference” between children raised in the home of same-sex parents and those raised in the home of their married mother and father. It's also...read more
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