As an adult offspring of an anonymous sperm donor, I am telling pieces of my life story to provide the perspective of an offspring, to advocate for the needs of future offspring, and to expose relatively ignored complexities resulting from donor conception. My journey...read more
My name is Jessica Kern. I am a product of a traditional surrogacy. This is where a surrogate is hired to both donate her egg and carry the child to term... As a product of surrogacy I can tell you firsthand what we children of donor conception go through. Children...read more
My name is Brian and I am the son of a traditional surrogate, a biological father, and an adoptive mother. I think all of you here need to know how I feel about surrogacy. I have read a certain popular surrogacy board since I was 16 and I am almost 18 now. I was...read more
My parents separated when I was very young — still a baby — and I was brought up by my mother with very little financial or emotional input from my father, though I did see him regularly throughout my childhood. Nevertheless, by the time I was 18 I had pretty much...read more
I remember the first time I struggled to understand the ethics of a case involving reproductive technologies. I was five years old, folding clothes in my bedroom with my mom. She told me that my dad was not my biological father. My biological father was an anonymous...read more
My first memory is of Halloween when I was a year and a half old. My mom put me down in front of the fireplace and turned to make some food in the kitchen. Then my dad came over and put an orange smiley-face lollipop in my hand. I didn’t know what I was looking at...read more
My father left my mom with four kids and never came back. We had not seen him for approximately 4 years when he died suddenly. My mom remarried a couple of years after my bio dad left. The man she married is still my step father to this day, forty years later. He...read more
I have a lot of experience with divorce, far too much to ask of any one person in my opinion. My parents divorced when I was three and went on to subsequent marriages, divorces, different children, a lot of back and forth between “two homes,” and a lot of chaos. By...read more
I grew up in a household living with not only my mother and father, but also my half-brother and his mother. My father had two kids: one with my mom (me) and one with another woman (my half-brother, who was three months older than I). When my mother was not there, I...read more
My biggest concern at age nine was how to keep my daddy’s secret, the one he revealed to me as we sat alone on a hill near our home. In a sense, I lost my dad that day, when he told me he wanted to become a woman. As I tried to process that revelation, he blindsided...read more
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